When the days are long and the nights are short, you keep striving to make each day better than the last. Each morning that you choose to get out of bed and be the mom, you are winning at parenthood. No one likes arguing with their kids, but the only way to stop it completely is to give up.
When you disagree with your kids, you're demonstrating that you love them and care about them. It doesn't matter what those choices are or whether or not they're popular. The important part is that you care enough to do your research and make responsible choices for your kids. You doubt yourself and you worry whether or not you're doing right by your kids. If you can strike a healthy balance between worry and doubt, you'll continue being a great parent.
You could ignore your kids and do your own thing each day. That's one viable option. However, you put yourself aside each day to listen to and play with your kids. They really do appreciate your time. You're reading a parenting article right now. Do you understand how amazing you are?
You love your kids enough to keep learning and growing, and you're willing to consider new direction. Sometime in the past week, I'm sure you laughed when you felt like crying or yelling - or doing both.
If they perceive that Mommy is always busy or distracted, then it then becomes fact in their minds. As a child, I perceived that my mom spent more time working than she did playing with me; therefore, my child-like conclusion was that she loved her work more than she loved me. As an adult, I can look back and see how flawed my thinking was. As moms, it is critical for us to invest time and energy into understanding our children.
Consistently seeking to put ourselves in their shoes and trying to understand their perspective is the first step towards a happy, healthy relationship with our children. Open dialog helps our children to understand why we do what we do. It also builds a foundation of trust and honesty in the relationship. Openness is a two-way street.
It is critical we take the time to ask our children thoughtful questions. Listen carefully to their answers and develop follow-up questions. Many times children do not even know how to define what they are feeling with words. It is our job as parents to teach them how to express their feelings in a positive way. Once they have opened up to you, reinforce this positive behavior by taking action on what they have said. It will show them that you are a safe place for them and that you truly care about their thoughts and feelings.
Set aside time each day to prepare a schedule, dividing your time wisely between your household responsibilities and your family. Allow your children to participate by choosing a few fun activities they would like to do with you each day. Be creative and take breaks regularly through the day to engage in these pre-planned activities with your children. Being prepared is choosing to be proactive rather than reactive in our relationships with our children.
This choice will not only strengthen those relationships, but it will also serve as a daily reminder to our children of their value and significance. As moms, we are constantly being tempted to stretch ourselves too thin.
When Mom is stressed and overworked, the whole family suffers. It is important that we recognize our own limitations and seek help when necessary. Choosing to be humble in our role as a mother is choosing to accept our imperfections. I find that I can get more housework done in a few hours of focused time with NO kids to distract me than a whole day of juggling my responsibilities.
Kids need to know they are loved. I am passionate about what I do. There would be complete dissatisfaction if I were to remain stagnant. Changing those sinful behaviors is a daily pursuit. Sure, I have a ways to go, but I will continue to want to do this job well and therefore make the changes necessary in my own behavior. As the junk in me are revealed, I am determined to take steps toward a better me.
Nobody wants to mess up their kids. I will work toward that end. While I have admitted I am full of faults, integrity is very important to me.
I want my kids to show true character in their actions, which is why I developed my character development series. If I see my kids being unkind, I jump. Being good citizens that treat all human beings with respect, honesty and care is important. I try and be the kind of person that gives back the extra money that was given on accident, smiles at people, opens door for others, listens to others — even if they disagree, lives in the light with my actions and is generous in time and resources.
Those are just a few of the actions I strive toward. I am aware that this can be limited by commitments to work or other life circumstances. However, when I can — I try and be present. Whether it be the school assembly, the class party, the sporting event, the church program or the choir concert, I am there. At home, I try and be available to help with homework, teach new skills, play, provide for basic needs, help problem solve and simply listen.
No matter the distractions that come in and out of my life, I want my kids to remember me as a staple — to love, support, cheer for and coach. I want them to think of me as their biggest fan.
I started the blog to be there for others. Anytime a friend wants to talk about their struggles, I am there to listen, have empathy, help tangibly or give solicited advice based on my own personal journey. Taking what we have and our life experience and using it to benefit others is part of the responsibility of being in community — of being in the human race. It is part of what contributes to making us amazing.
There are many reasons why I suck as a mom, but I pray that God will use both my weakness and my strengths for His glory. Wife of the perfect partner for me. Mother of Three. Lover of fun, creativity, cooking, adventure, puzzles, games, family but most importantly Jesus. I run the blog Meaningful Mama. The heart of my blog is the character development series for teaching kids.
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